DEAR SINGLE LADY

Dear Single lady,
I write you this letter this dead of the night
because I am genuinely concerned about your
state of single hood. I know you are as bothered as
I am over your seeming inability to be connected
with that 'Mr. Right'. Family pressures keep
mounting. Your age keeps increasing. You
promised yourself marriage in the year 2013 but
you have just 2 saturdays left with none in sight!
You have prayed, fasted and climbed all the
prayer mountains in the neighborhood and in the
hinterland to no avail. It is okay to pray, but
prayer alone is not enough! I attended a very
beautiful wedding today and I discovered some of
the reasons why you are still single! Listen
carefully as I share them with you.

1. Be easy to find! God has resigned from giving
wives to men after Adam accused God of
complicity at the fall of man that the woman, Eve
that God gave to be with him gave him the
forbidden fruit and he ate. The new charge is for
men to find their own wives! Thus, it is bad prayer
to ask God to give you to your husband! It is a
man's responsibility to find a wife but it is equally
your responsibility to stay accessible so you could
be found!

2. Stop moving in groups! The band wagon effect
makes it hard for right but sometimes shy men to
locate you! Forget the notion that a guy is not
bold! Many men won't disturb your peace when
you are subsumed amongst 15 friends! Its not
lack of courage, but self-respect! No one attacks a
snake in colony! You are a young lady, stop
moving enmasse like termites in an army
with #teamsingleladies! Some other girls that you
are forming the clique with have someone! I
observed at the wedding how some eligible
Bachelors were adjusting their suits and saying
they might find their wives there only for the
young but ageing spinsters to cluster around each
other like ants and embracing their iphones and
Blackberry phones! Guess you will marry your
phones.

3. Stop forming! I observed that the few down to
earth, accessible, warm and endearing women
and ladies at the gathering were married! This is
the same reason why they got married! A stiff,
unfriendly, utterly unromantic and forming lady
will be a professional spinster for a long time!
Don't just obtain MSc, obtain Mrs! Don't just
obtain PhD, desire 'Mrd'.

4. Show the green light but don't make the first
move! You don't have to act desperate but there
is a body language that shows that you are
accessible and available for a date! We men
recognise it! Smile more and look helpful. Be a
lady, not a woman. Don't try to be our mother, we
already have one!

5. Dress well! Forget the stories that a man tells
you about seeing you in his spirit. All men are
driven by sight! We all view outwardly, not
inwardly! No man will see your inner mind or your
good character first! You have to look good to
attract a man. Has anyone even seen your spirit? I
guess beauty is spirit then. Be a force of
attraction. Don't be intentionally ugly, dress well.

6. Go out! I know you are a Christian and you
don't party but men won't find you in your closet!
This is the major advantage unbelievers have over
you as they are more out in the open field and you
are 'competing' for the same husbands. Attend
weddings, birthdays, get-togethers, luncheons
and Dinners. Who knows you might just meet the
Mr. Right.

I wish you the very best as you stay accessible to
be found!

Yours faithfully,

'Tosin Ayo,
'The word bank.